Wedding Guests

My younger son has a girl friend. They have known each other since high-school but just started dating within the past six months. They both attended the local junior college last year. He is a junior, away at college this year and she has one more year at the junior college before moving to a four-year school to complete her degree. She drives down to see him every other weekend and when he comes home they spend all their time together. 

           He has never had a girl friend before and we don’t know where this thing it is heading. (Is it more than this thing?) Anyway, I thought it might be good to get some things down on paper that he (or they together) might think about as they move forward in any direction. Everything can be covered in my description of Wedding Guests.

Wedding Guests - parents and close friends and other relatives, and significant teachers, mentors, coaches, musical, theatrical and other performance directors, who are expected to continue to maintain close relationships with either of you into the future.  Only persons with such close relationships are qualified to serve as witnesses to your union. As such, your association with them throughout your lives will serve as reminders of your vow before God.

Starting now as you approach the date of your wedding, begin to closely review the relationships you have, recognizing that there may be some changes between now and the set date. New friends will identify themselves and make you aware of their ability to serve as witness. Other associates will make you aware that their ability to serve as witness either does not exist or will only be short-lived; these should be excluded from those invited to serve as witnesses.

Friendship is a dynamic relationship requiring positive participation by all. And vows should be short, so that they can be reminding to all attending.

Proverbs 18:24 (KJV) 24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. 

Ecclesiastes 4:10 (NIV) 10 If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up!